Saying No May Be Hard But Be Respected For Being Yourself

How good are you at saying no? Do you always say that other word yes?

At times I think I have problem disagreeing in that I avoid it if I can. I'm just learning that at times I do have to stand firm and say no. Not just quietly go along with things and not share my uncertainty, apprehension or unwillingness.

Not go along with things because it is easier that way. Often by saying no I do not think that is right, or we should not be doing that - things just seem right. Often others say, well actually I agree with you.

Be led by your principles, by your value system. The system you have built up over the years. The guidance you feel inside and how you decide what to do and how to go about things.

Have a feel for how you want to handle things. Have your own mind and your own way. Do not be easily swayed by others and thoughts that do not sit well with you.

If something does not feel quite right to you, the chances are that you are being given good advice, by yourself! So ignore it at your peril.

By standing firm for what you think - and it does not have to be every time and every place - people will respect you for it. For having principles and sticking too them. (Not much good having them if they are not given an airing every now and again, is it?)

When saying no or yes be aware of what you are doing and what you are saying. And what is behind it. If no good reason presents itself or becomes clear then your answer may best be delayed until you are more certain about what to do or what to say.

Why is no so hard to say? We don't want to disappoint or annoy someone else. We don't wish to be seen going against the grain. We don't want to be seen as doing our own thing? Being our own person.

But why not?

Stick to your guns - you don't have to end up saying yes. Answer in your own way and be comfortable and proud of your stance - assuming it is good and honorable and not just for the sake of it.

Be your own person and you will be respected. You will even be sought out for your opinion.

Be comfortable with yourself, your thoughts and your actions - you will be glad and happy you did.