Being A Listener Will Separate You From The Rest

We can all be a good listener, can we not?

It is not that difficult is it. Just sit (or stand) there while another human being shares something with you.

But it seems that such gifts can be a rare quality.

People listen only

• to counter whatever is said.
• to ignore what is said and do the other thing
• because they wish to appear interested.
• to say that they did, and how good they really are.
• because you are telling a joke.
• because you are the boss and they have to.
• because they do not want to miss anything.
• to be able to gossip behind your back later.
• because you are standing in the doorway and they cannot get past you.

and for any number of other reasons.

But some people really focus, really home in. What do they manage? They manage to give a bit of themselves.

They share the moment. They really communicate because they really want to. They communicate in a two way manner.

Their success is by inviting us to share something. By wanting to be there with us. By giving us time and by wanting to understand that which we wish to say. By putting aside other things to devote a few precious moments to us and what we want and what we have to say.

And a two way communication occurs. Message relayed and understood and felt to be important and acted upon. And necessary response made and received, too.

A heart to heart has taken place. A special moment has transpired. (And we are all capable of those.)

Be yourself and care about others, and you too can become an expert, too.