Blame Another At Your Own Peril

Is it not so easy to blame another person rather than take responsibility yourself?

But what is the real gain and advantage in doing that? Will it help us to decide things in life and get over any indecision we may face in our everyday lives?

Is this just a selfish act or is there more to it?

Something occurs and we jump at the chance to accuse another - sometimes even before we realize that all is OK? Why is that?

Can we not be responsible for what we do?

Do we hope to get away with this stance, or does it give us a kick? It really is a bit negative surely? Do we really have all the facts?

Is it that we are insecure within ourselves? We cannot stand up and be counted? We are afraid the spotlight may fall upon us and do not like the anticipated glare?

What is there to be fearful of? Are we not proud of our actions? Would we repeat them? Are we not happy with our deeds, would they still be on our radar if the situation were repeated? Can we handle our thoughts or do they take advantage of us and lead us on in directions unchartered and unwelcome?

Who exactly is in charge here? Quick to point the finger of blame (and ignoring the three pointing back) - is blame that good or just an excuse or easy way out or a deflecting posture?

But that can be what indecision does for us? Puts us in a quandary from which a whirlpool arises and we get sucked in? We get dizzy with all the possibilities, with all the things that might go wrong - though they might go right, too.

Is this a vicious circle without end? Of course not! But we must act and stop placing the recriminations - anywhere. But not just act, but realize that we do have to stand up for ourselves AND also have to decide to exert ourselves, too.

Do we not all, at some time or other, play the blame game? Thinking that we can get away with it. After all it was not our fault, was it?

Perhaps if we take the focus off us for a second and reflect on our situation then the world, our world might appear a bit more rosy.

Count our blessings. Realize what we do have. Understand that life is on our side and that we can go on. Realize what we have achieved before, with our without help. And we can again.

Realize that we are bona fide human beings. We have the right to live. We can live. But the act of living does challenge us and we need to meet those challenges, and keep our heads above the proverbial water.

And we can. Seek support and guidance where necessary. But understand what and who you are. That we are capable and can do - far more than we think.

Act now and don't hesitate any longer. You can if you think you can.