Attachments Are Here To Stay - Don't Fall For Their False Allure

What does having attachments mean to us?

Is it a positive feeling or a cramping, debilitating one? Do we look to our life with fondness and happiness or are we confused or on a downer?

Understanding ourselves and how these situations affect us in life will have a huge bearing on the decisions we make and the success we have.

There are many things in life that try to grab a bit of us. There really are a lot of 'attachments' about. Some of these are with our permission, others not.

What are we loyal too? Let us not lose valuable friendships in their acquisition and continued admiration.

What do we mean? Anything from a hobby to a car, a type of after shave or eau de cologne, a new craze to a mobile phone - these can all take away a bit of us, either for fleeting moments or vast bits of time. And we can become lost in their (apparent) splendors or wonders . . .

What we must avoid is losing ourselves in these activities, losing a bit of us in our dreams. For then we are not living but dreaming our existence. This is fine every now and again, but as a constant in our lives - it can mean that something is missing.

And what is that missing piece of the puzzle? Often it is because we don't look after ourselves well enough. We don't accept or respect ourselves as we should. Our self esteem takes a battering and we are left weakened and vulnerable.

But, I hear you say, that is not me. I can handle those things well, no problem for me - well done is all I can say, but at times we can all fall prey to the charms of something new (or something old).

At those moments these attachments take on a whole new meaning. They appear to be just what we are looking for. They seem to satisfy our requirements down to a T. But do they?

Are these temporary gains worth the effort and the knock to our esteem and life? We would have to say no, wouldn't we?

While it is good to have things, to have possessions, to want more, to have ambitions, sometimes gaining the 'x' that we've been after for some time does not do it for us. We enjoy the temporary feeling, but then crave another 'hit'.

But at times it does satisfy us. In fact it can take over. But when the feeling, temporary feeling of joy is over, what are we often left with?

A feeling of emptiness. Alone again and feeling let down.

It is how we tackle those moments that can define the next few minutes, but sometimes the next period of our lives. If we succumb then we feel life and ourselves going downhill.

At times we can question and wonder about life itself. But if we grab these moments then we can learn and grow and develop, by meeting these new challenges. We can move on in our lives having learned another valuable lesson.